Secrets to Attracting Private Money for Real Estate Deals Without Begging or Chasing

Welcome to another episode of the Raising Private Money podcast, where we explored the strategies and stories behind real estate success. In this episode, Scott Morse sat down with industry disruptor and private money expert Jay Conner to pull back the curtain on how to raise and leverage private money for real estate investing—without begging, chasing, or even asking for it directly.

From his humble beginnings in eastern North Carolina, Jay Conner shared how a financial crisis in 2009 forced him to break away from traditional bank financing and discover the world of private lenders. He revealed the step-by-step mindset shift, educational approach, and practical conversations that helped him attract millions in funding from everyday individuals—so much so that he hadn’t missed out on a single deal in over a decade.

Plus, listeners got actionable tips, real scripts, and stories about how anyone—even those new to the game—could start building relationships with private lenders, use self-directed IRAs, and ensure every deal brought in a big check at closing. Whether someone was a seasoned investor or just getting started, this episode was packed with golden nuggets on raising capital, negotiating deals, and building long-term wealth through real estate.

Timestamps:
00:01 Leads, Deals, & Private Money
04:00 Bank Loans vs Hard Money
06:39 Bank Shutdowns and Private Money
10:28 Securing Investment with Trust
15:57 Get Money Before Deals
17:15 Private Lender Script Revealed
20:38 Investor Confidence in Proven Deal
23:32 Spreading the Word Tactfully
28:10 Why 8% Since 2009?
30:24 Scaling Business with Networking
34:06 Real Estate Profit Breakdown
37:25 Private Money vs Hard Lending
42:20 No Profit Sharing for Loans
44:40 Private Lending: Timing and Deal Preparation
48:25 Access to Capital for Hustlers
49:50 Golden Nuggets with Jay

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https://www.jayconner.com/MoneyReport

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Have you read Jay’s new book: Where to Get The Money Now?
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https://www.JayConner.com/Book

What is Private Money? Real Estate Investing with Jay Conner:
https://www.JayConner.com/MoneyPodcast

Jay Conner is a proven real estate investment leader. Without using his own money or credit, Jay maximizes creative methods to buy and sell properties with profits averaging $67,000 per deal.

What is Real Estate Investing? Live Private Money Academy Conference:
https://youtu.be/QyeBbDOF4wo